Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Lying to Who?

“How do you tell when an addict is lying? When his lips are moving.” - source unknown

The other day I handed an addict my cell phone so he could speak to his father about financing a stay at our program.

The man was trying to convince dad to spend the money for his treatment, even though he had enough money of his own to pay his way. The conversation carried on for over 15 minutes and the man lied to his father throughout.

For example, when he came in he told me he was using heroin. But he told his father he wasn't using street drugs. He said he’d been taking prescription meds for back pain from an injury he received while in the army. And his use of the pain pills had gotten him addicted. He needed to detoxify and get into treatment.

Finally, when it appeared the father wasn't about to give up several thousand dollars, the son angrily hung up the phone and left our office. Presumably to buy more heroin with the several hundred dollars he had in his pocket.

Perhaps one day he’ll get into recovery. Or maybe he’ll go to prison for a crimes committed while trying to get drug money. He might overdose. Someone might hurt him for the money has in his pocket now. There aren't a lot of pretty options when we’re actively using.

We’ll leave the light on for him.