Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Thursday, February 21, 2013

A Son's Resume

This message arrived this morning from a mother who’s trying to help her addict son. Her words, more powerful than anything I can put together, describe what parents of addicts live through.

"I was writing to see if my son would meet the criteria for admission. We cannot let him live with us due to his pathological lying, unable to maintain employment, stealing from us, marijuana, opiates, has done meth, drinks but don’t think it is a problem. He will tell you his doc is marijuana. He is homeless and living in __________,

He is from job to job, has nowhere to live. Will live with whomever until he wears out his welcome, or will not follow through with what he says he will do (share in rent, groceries, etc.) We are at a loss. We love him and cannot stand knowing he is walking the streets as a homeless person.

I don’t know if there is a dual diagnosis thing here, but he has no regard for others, unable to show sympathy toward others. Has a son who he will never be able to have a relationship. We don’t know how to help him. If you can please give me some feedback. He can no longer live with us. We have tried ________ treatment facilities without help.

He has the same resume of most of our clients. I let her know TLC’s doors are open whenever her son is ready.  If he's willing - we're willing.