Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Saturday, March 30, 2013

Uncommon Drunk

I received an email that reads, in part:

“I have a relative who is so sick...entitlement, lack of responsibility, anger, all present.

He is educated, a great guy when sober. Failed miserably at anything connected to life...his education is a problem, makes him think he has more import than he does, and the real world isn't impressed with great resumes anymore, let alone ones who have been a drunken problem for a decade.

You'll see when you meet him, he's an uncommon drunk. Hard to let go of. Very intelligent. Very charming. A totally different person than when drunk. I just want to see him have one more real chance at sobriety…”

This email was much longer, but you get the idea.  This man has the ingredients for success, but it sounds like he’s maybe too smart to get sober.

When she used the term “uncommon drunk” she provided a clue. Those different from the rest of us in the rooms have a tough time getting the message,

Cemeteries are populated with intelligent, educated alcoholics - bright folks who couldn't summon the common sense to follow some simple steps.

In any event, we’ll accept him into TLC. He might surprise everyone.