Many clients use their past as a reason to not change.
“I was an abused child.”
“My spouse left me.”
“My father was an addict.” On and on…
This is the template for further self-destructive behavior. And sometimes it guides us back into the addiction that brought us to our knees in the first place.
So does this mean that traumatic events are unimportant? Not at all. But staying stuck on them can mean an unfulfilled life of addiction, broken relationships, and an unproductive existence of not enjoying our potential.
Even though bad things might have happened they serve no valid purpose now. No matter how scarred or traumatized we were it doesn’t do much for us to honor this part of our past by focusing upon it.
How to live in this moment is our real assignment.