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John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Friday, August 30, 2013

Re-Living the Past

Someone once said that you can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.

And the habit of reliving the past is a prominent characteristic of those of us who suffer from addictions. We’re often so enmeshed in what was done to us – or what we've done to others – that we have difficulty finding a solution to our addictions.

Some of us rightfully feel guilty about what we've done. We've neglected our families and children. Lost jobs. Damaged our health. Been arrested. The list goes on.

But if we work the program the way it was designed we're able to come to terms with this history. The steps provide us with the tools to deal with our past.

In the promises it says we “will not regret the past, nor wish to shut the door on it.” That doesn't mean, though, that we wallow in what we've done. Nor do we spend much time dealing with it once we make amends.

Our mandate now is to live in the moment and enjoy the blessings of a clean and sober life.

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