Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013


Why do we relapse?

The topic came up because a man who’d been sober for multiple years received an inheritance. And within a few weeks he’d relapsed and lost everything.

His relapse was all the more visible because he was active in the recovery community and sponsored several people. Surely this was a man who could sense when he was in danger?

While some in the group thought that the money he’d received was a trigger, others didn't believe that to be the case.  Several agreed that they always found a way to get high, whether they had money or not.

The consensus was that the man had failed to do the very things he was teaching. He wasn't calling his sponsor. He likely wasn't attending meetings.. Someone pointed out that he had probably 50 people he could've called. Yet something kept him from doing that.

Staying sober isn't an exact science. But if we listen to those around us who have lived sober for many years we can get a good idea of what works for them.

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