Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Monday, February 17, 2014


Half a dozen female clients request a meeting with me. It seems that a male client has been verbally abusing them and making sexual comments.

Among the comments purportedly made was one to a gay female client who said he told her he had the sexual prowess to "turn her straight."

Another female client said that he had invited her to "go fishing" at a nearby lake. Yet another said that he’d told her he was well-endowed.

After 20 minutes or so of discussion in the group room I ask the women if they’d like to confront him in group. Or did they simply want me to discharge him?

They wanted to confront him in group.

Once he was on the hot seat he did as expected: he denied everything. He was misunderstood. People were out to get him. He did everything he could to deflect blame.

His consequences were that he could no longer speak to the women about anything. Plus he was moved to our Roosevelt facility – where conditions aren't so comfortable.

I doubt if anything will make much difference with this man's behavior. But in any event, what the women had to say surely got his attention.