Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Drinking Alone

A man who thinks he might have a drinking problem shares his story. As he tells it, there's a hint of tears, a quaver in his voice.

His wife left long ago and he's been alone since.  He watches TV evenings and weekends. Once or twice a year he'll attend a movie - by himself.

He has little contact with his children or grandchildren. The closest thing he has to friends is the people he works with. But even then, he doesn't socialize with them because they're married or have girlfriends. He feels out of place.

There's sadness in his voice as he tells of turning down their invitations for a barbecue or a trip to the lake.

He began paying attention to his drinking after he'd wake up in the night and drink himself back to sleep.

He hasn't had a DUI or lost a job over drinking. But he knows something's wrong when his existence is about beer and his job.

He’s tired of filling the void in his life with alcohol and isn't sure about where to start.

So I give him some suggestions.