Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Good Outcome

A professional man with an addict daughter is happy because she's been sober and clean for over a year.

For a long time I saw him struggle with her disease. He blamed himself. Maybe he was too strict with her when she was growing up. He blamed his ex. He blamed the crowd she hung out with when she was in high school. Maybe they lived in the wrong neighborhood.

Or was it something else? He never wanted to put the responsibility on her – which is where it belonged.

But, after he spent a lot of money on treatment programs he gave her an ultimatum: that he would help her one more time. And that was it.

Maybe the cumulative effects of the many treatment programs helped. Or maybe his ultimatum turned her around.

In any event, she completed treatment. She found employment. She goes to meetings and hangs out with sober people.

Sometimes things do work out.

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