Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, a 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992 when he had a year sober. He's in his 27th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he sometimes disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Control?

Control is an issue with us addicts.

To protect ourselves, we must accept that most of life is beyond our control. If we don't learn that we court disaster. Our grandiosity might destroy us.

I counsel clients with control issues to realize that we only control ourselves. That is, if we're lucky.

For years I controlled my life so well that I became addicted. My home was prison or jail. For about a year I was in a state mental hospital. I lost businesses. Got divorced. Went bankrupt.

When a counselor pointed out that I controlled things so well that I nearly killed myself, I had to agree. I couldn't deny the trail of evidence I left behind.

Once I figured out that God would let me know when he needed my help running things, life got much easier.