Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, a 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992 when he had a year sober. He's in his 27th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he sometimes disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Friday, January 30, 2015

This Moment

"The past cannot be changed, forgotten, edited, or erased. It can only be accepted." Author unknown.

One of the most freeing things we can do is accept our past.

Most of our clients show up with a narrative about what happened. Or who they used to be. Or the injustices done to them. Some spend a lot of time reviewing old memories, revisiting their suffering.

A most important passage in the 12-step literature is about acceptance. It's wisdom for the ages.

Once we accept what's happened, our burden lightens. We become freer.

Does that mean the bad that happened to us is okay? Of course not. Some of the trauma our clients have been through is difficult to hear about. It would traumatize anyone.

But an actualized person lives in this moment, dealing with the present.

Take inventory of your present moment. Do you have what you need right now? Food? Shelter? Friends? Job? Health? My experience is that everything's pretty much okay in this moment. We have what we need. And if we don't, we can figure our how to get it.

Or are you having difficulty staying with me in the moment? Did you scurry back into your warehouse of memories? Back to some familiar pain or misery?

If you want to be free join those of us who live in the sunlight of the moment. That's where our power lies.

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