And we tell her that of course we will. So she says she'll talk to him and see if he's willing - then get back to us.
This happens more than one would think. Parents at retirement age who are still caring for their children. Children whose handicap is addiction. Something that's treatable.
My advice is that it's okay to confront an addict. Many of them think the son or daughter will no longer love them. That they'll take the confrontation the wrong way. Then maybe not talk to them anymore.
But reality is that a parent gets little love from an addict. They're too busy taking care of their addiction to offer much more than lip service to anyone else.
My experience is that when parents tell an adult child to get clean or go somewhere else, the problem is solved.
Sure, there might be sore feelings for a while. But an addict who has no one to care for him has a couple of choices: homelessness or recovery.
And if he makes the right choice his whole world could change.