Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, a 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992 when he had a year sober. He's in his 27th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he sometimes disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Friday, January 29, 2016

Picking the Future

The web is full of sites where we have a chance to pick our future mate.

We can specify religious beliefs. Hobbies. Health habits. Beauty. Sports interests. Education. Ethnic background. And so forth. Most whatever we want is out there somewhere if we just look.

But after dealing with the adult children of addicts for so many years I'm wondering if we shouldn't take this process further? Why couldn't science get this this to an even finer point?

Maybe we want a child with a certain I.Q. or E.Q. A certain hair color. Maybe a particular ethnic background. One with skills or talents that would help him them through life. One with no predisposition to alcohol or drug abuse.

For sure there was no planned parenthood in my family back in the day. . Or if it was, it was poorly executed. Because the whole crew was maladjusted in some way or the other. They were resentful about something all the time. They were all alcoholics or smokers. I can't recall any of them being happy about anything.

The exception was a grandmother with polio who spent much of her life in a wheel chair. She was a spiritual and loving person who didn't have a mean bone in her body. Tough yes. Mean no.

So, if I had the ability to pick our off-spring I'd mix in some of her DNA. Let's build up a data base where we could choose kind, generous, loving, sober people - all the good stuff.

If we had this kind of science and power I'm sure some would want to abuse it for their own evil goals. But, what if we could select people of the future from a certain gene pool?  Where people were sober and generous, brilliant and hard-working, creative and spiritual? What could be wrong with that?

I'm not sure. But someone would probably find something they didn't like about the idea.