Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, a 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992 when he had a year sober. He's in his 27th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he sometimes disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Thursday, December 15, 2016

Getting Reacquainted

We often receive clients from out of state, from areas where there aren't a lot services.

And sometimes it's not individuals, but also couples. Yesterday I was speaking with a young woman from the Midwest who'd been in our program for a few years.

If I'm not mistaken, she and her husband arrived about the same time. Both eventually went to work for us. For the first 90 days - they lived apart. He in the men's program, she in the woman's. That allows couples who are serious, to focus upon their recovery before getting back together.

Now they have a TLC apartment they share with a 15 year old daughter. She came to visit one summer and decided to relocate here.

A subject that came up during our talk is how couples who used together must get reacquainted again. Before getting into recovery, their one interest was in obtaining drugs. That was more or less the basis of their relationship.

Today she says they're getting acquainted as a couple and learning how to live together as a family - without drugs. Plus, she now has a teenage daughter with her, a relationship she lost for a while.

She's come to realize that just because their family is sober there are still issues of daily living that one must learn to deal with in sobriety – just like any other family.