Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Friday, April 21, 2017

Useless Fears

While waiting with others for the doors to open at a 12-step meditation meeting, I listened to a young woman who was full of fear.

She was worried that North Korea was going to launch a nuclear missile at North America. She talked of her plans to avoid the fallout by moving to the middle of the country – like maybe Colorado. She didn’t think the wind would blow fallout that far if the missile hit San Francisco or another West Coast city.

Someone in the group politely suggested that she might do better to stay in the moment. That there were many other things more likely to befall her before a nuclear warhead would hit us.

On my way home after the meeting I reflected that many of us waste precious time fretting about what might happen to us. While at the same time we’re making lifestyle choices that can seriously harm us in the long-term.

We might be smokers. We might eat a crappy diet from fast food restaurants. Or we might be one of those Americans who spend 40 hours a week watching television.

Many of us worry about the things we can’t control – like nuclear missiles – and do little or nothing about habits that could really destroy us - habits that we could control.

The perfect answer to unfounded fears can be found in the Serenity Prayer.