Before we discharged them they were each was given a chance to modify his behavior. Something they were unable or unwilling to do.
The first thing we do in these situations is forbid them to say anything to the females other that “hi” and “bye.” For each of them, that didn't last long.
In one case a twenty something client continued on as he had before, trying to arrange rendezvous with the females.
Another man wouldn’t be verbally abuse on the property – but at 12-step meetings he would make veiled threats or innuendos that would make the women uncomfortable.
And the client we put on the bus yesterday had a habit of staring at the females in group to the point they were uncomfortable. And he would make offensive suggestions.
We usually give men who behave this way one chance to act right because we assume they simply don’t know better. After a second incident we start the discharge paperwork.
Because many women in our program have been traumatized, we do everything possible to keep them from experiencing further bad experiences.
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