Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, an 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992, when he had a year sober. He's in his 28th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he often disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Saturday, September 27, 2014

He's Ready

Today I received an email from an alcoholic who's struggling with his disease.

He's a man in  his middle years who's been drinking for a while. He's unemployable because he went to work at early age and never developed advanced job skills.

He said he prays every night before he goes to sleep that God will take him before he wakes up.

He says that if he doesn't die soon he may take his own life.

He alarmed me when he mentioned suicide. I immediately sent him an email saying we could help him. If he had included a phone number, I would've called him.

Yet, in spite of his situation, I have high hopes for him if he can get here.

When someone comes to us who's arrived at the his station in life he has no more illusions. He has no arrogance.  He has no ego. He's totally surrendered to the fact that he's an alcoholic. Deflation.

If this man shows up, we can help.

We sometimes have addicts arrive with a car. A job. A girlfriend. A wardrobe. Usually they also bring ego, no matter how tattered it might be. These are people that we sometimes have difficulty helping because they haven't hit bottom yet.  We sometimes ask them to leave until they lose everything - until they're really willing.

But the man who wrote the email, he's ready.