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John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, a 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992 when he had a year sober. He's in his 27th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he sometimes disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Friday, July 24, 2015

More Acceptance

A staff member wonders how to be peaceful. To be calm as he goes through his day.

And the answer is simple to the point of being almost trite, maybe a cliché.

And that answer is acceptance. Of everything.

If we look at the world - and those in it - as being in a state of flux, of change, then what comes next is not a surprise.

If the boss is in a bad mood we accept that. If a client is demanding and rude we don't let that upset us. If traffic is so jammed up that we're late to work, that's not a big deal either.

We also accept the good things that happen as being part of change. And we don't make a big deal of them either. They're just part of the fabric of life.

If we have the world view that things should always go our way, well guess what? We'll be disappointed much of the time. Stressed. Or angry. Something unpleasant.

I believe we must insulate ourselves from ups and downs. We need to shock proof ourselves by welcoming the changes we encounter.

If we do that we won't develop high blood pressure or other stress related issues as easily.

It takes a lot of practice to develop this attitude. But if we take the time to do it life flows much more smoothly.

And we find peace.