A week rarely passes that I don't get an inquiry from a mother asking for help for their son or daughter.
And I always answer them, but I sometimes wonder what would happen if the mother told her child that she was old enough to find help for herself.
The point here is not to be be hard hearted. But the reality is that if the child wanted to get tickets to a concert or make reservations at a hotel for a vacation they would have no problem picking up the phone or going onto the internet to start searching.
The only time a prospective client calls on their own is when they've run out of people to help them. When they get really desperate they somehow find the intelligence and energy to seek help for themselves.
The same thing happened in my own case. I kept asking my family for help during the years I was using and finally they got tired of it. It was only when they told me they were no longer going to help me that I sought help on my own.
And it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I first got sober. Then I started a business that has been operating for about 30 years. Before my parents died I was able to make amends to them and repay them for the many times they'd helped me.
Once we take responsibility the for ourselves there's no telling where life will take us. But it's usually to a much better place that we came from.
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