Recovery Connections

John Schwary is CEO of Transitional Living Communities, a 850-bed recovery program he founded in Mesa, Arizona January 9, 1992 when he had a year sober. He's in his 27th year of recovery.

In these posts, he views life mostly through the lenses of recovery. While the blog is factual, he sometimes disguises events and people to protect anonymity.

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Responsibility

It's when clients step into the world of personal responsibility that they begin to change.

Sometimes – before they’ve had enough pain in their lives - they think everyone else is responsible. For their being homeless. Being on parole. Or divorced. Loss of job.  Health problems.

Many are with us because of outside pressure. Their families sent them. Their parole officer. Or they’re homeless and have nowhere else to go. If people would just leave them alone they’d be alright.

They ascribe their issues as being maybe “bad luck.” Or else “everyone’s out to get me.” It’s never about them. Because if it were, they’d have to do something.

We see a shift when they recognize their part in their problems. When they start developing gratitude. When begin to assume responsibility. When they stop trying to get a doctor to help them feel good.

But it’s sometimes a long and twisted path before they realize that they are the author of their own misery.

When they do realize that then they can become responsible for their recovery.

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