Now I'm not exactly sure what this means. But, based on the addict's behavior, I suspect it means he's doing things his way. Perhaps still running on self-will.
The wonderful thing about the 12-step programs is that they're a tried and true way for us to change. To learn to live with this deadly disease that's taken so many of our friends and loved ones.
When I was out there "working my own program" things never went well. Prisons. Divorces. Bankruptcy. Homelessness. Health issues. The list is longer, but you get the picture.
When I was finally cornered like a rat with no where to go, I surrendered. I followed the 12-step program the way the Founders laid it out.
Did I like it? Of course not. I never liked anyone else's plan. But I saw the successes in the rooms. What they said made sense. I shoplifted their ideas and used them in my life.
And, you know, the Promises started coming true before I even knew what they were.
After six months I realized that for the first time I was enjoying freedom and happiness. I no longer was looking over my shoulder. The cloud of demoralization had left me. Even though I had nothing material, I had a rich sense of joy at being alive.
The best decision I ever made was to start working the program. Because mine never worked.
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