An alcoholic talks about the help his sponsor gave him years ago while he was doing his 4th step.
In that step he'd written that his ex-wife was "a whore" and that her husband was a "dick." He'd been angry and resentful at them for years.
The sponsor asked why he felt that way.
The man explained that she'd left him for the man who's now her husband. And on top of that, she and her new husband were raising his daughter, whom he hadn't seen since she was very young.
"Were you drinking at the time?" his sponsor asked.
"Of course," he answered.
"Are you paying child support?"
"No," he replied.
Then the sponsor went on to explain that he had no right to be angry. Instead, he pointed out, he should be grateful to them.
After all, his ex-wife and her new husband had been raising his daughter. And without financial help from him up until he got sober.
The man said that after this talk with his sponsor his feelings changed.
He realizes today that the feelings he had toward his ex and her new husband were because of his drinking. They had little to do with them.
And he's grateful to this sponsor for helping him change his perspective.
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