- Make sure you tell your child - all the time - that they're "special" and "unique."
- Allow them to disrespect you, and tell you to go f- - - yourself whenever they’re upset.
- Support them until they're well into their 20s, giving them everything.
Though it might be obvious, why are these three things issues?
For one thing, when we tell children they’re "special" or "unique" we’re making a clumsy effort to tell them we love them. But when we communicate our love this way, they might start believing they're special. And when people think they’re special they often believe rules don’t apply to them. And that includes rules about using drugs and alcohol.
When they get into the real world and discover that others just view them as a run of the mill neighborhood brat then they start having social issues. Kids are better off when we tell them we love them – that they’re special and unique to us – but that the real world expects them to carry their own weight.
Point two is important because teaching children to respect others is fundamental to their success. But if they haven't been taught to respect those who are raising them, then who will they respect? Quite likely, no one. And this doesn't bode well in a world where emotional quotient ranks high.
Number three: If we raise a lazy slug who loafs all day playing video games and smoking pot why would we expect them to suddenly get a job and find their own place? After all, they're only doing what we taught them all their lives.
Of course the beginning of the end comes when our clients learn they can’t freeload off of mommy and daddy anymore. That's when things come to a head.
Then we have the opportunity to help them into recovery and view life in a realistic manner.
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When they get into the real world and discover that others just view them as a run of the mill neighborhood brat then they start having social issues. Kids are better off when we tell them we love them – that they’re special and unique to us – but that the real world expects them to carry their own weight.
Point two is important because teaching children to respect others is fundamental to their success. But if they haven't been taught to respect those who are raising them, then who will they respect? Quite likely, no one. And this doesn't bode well in a world where emotional quotient ranks high.
Number three: If we raise a lazy slug who loafs all day playing video games and smoking pot why would we expect them to suddenly get a job and find their own place? After all, they're only doing what we taught them all their lives.
Of course the beginning of the end comes when our clients learn they can’t freeload off of mommy and daddy anymore. That's when things come to a head.
Then we have the opportunity to help them into recovery and view life in a realistic manner.
Click here to leave a comment
